and I’m not quite sure how to handle it. I need your help.
So today I walked down the hall leading to Megan’s room where Bella and Tess had been playing to let them know lunch was ready. As I started to approach I could tell Bella was all too eager to get out and go eat lunch. So I probed a bit. Bella tried hard to say it, but couldn’t get it out. Finally she said, “will you be mad?” I said “no just tell me”. Then tess pop’s up and said, “Megan did it!” Well I knew immediate that was not true because Megan had been with me, but before I could say anything Bella said to tess, “No! We did it” The offense was actually no big deal they twisted up a phone cord, but I was quite upset with Tess for lying. I looked at tess and said, “who did it”…she eventually said they both did.
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She has been doing this a lot lately. I am not sure how I should handle it. I do believe it is a stage, but stage or not lying is not accptable to Adam or I. SO what should I do? How should I handle it so she knows this kind of behavior is not allowed or so she knows not to do it again? I am lost. I try to tell her she will not get in trouble by telling me the truth. Apparently that has not worked.
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How old is Tess? I am going through this same thing with Kameron (5). I never went through it with my oldest. The other day they were using the paint on sidewalk, I noticed a tree was looking a little seus like. Someone had painted it, I was not mad, but wanted to let them know not to do it. I asked the two doing it (well Maryn being only 2 I did not really ask her), and kp told me she did it. I let him think that I believed him, than started to walk away, and turned around and said, well I was going to just nicely remind you not to, but if you are lying to me well than it is different. He confessed, and lost a privelege. We have told him that he will be punished harder for the lying than the act. I will punish for the act, than I will take him aside, and give him a harsher punishment for the lying (act: in room for 5 minutes, Lying: he lost the playstation). I think just consistency, maybe a fhe on lying, and how disappointed. I think it is also a phase, so I am not too worried, but like you want him to know this is not okay. Good luck.
maybe if you got a indiana jones whip to wear around your waist just to scare them..
ok just kidding. I don’t know anything about this one, but i look forward to what people say because i am sure it is my way coming with my sweet little caroline!
I have been told my kids are scared of me and that is why they are lying- sad huh! But I can’t imagine that is your case.
Emily is my liar- her most common phrase in a day is “NO I DIDN’T!!” So, I am anxious to hear what people say too. I like what Katie said about being consistent (so hard with multiple kids!!) and harsher punishment for the lying (it makes me much madder than the act!).
You should totally reward Bella for telling the truth! Good for her!! Maybe if Megan sees Bella being praised or rewarded for telling the truth, she’ll want to too.
I’m not sure what to advise here Amy. I guess you could have a Family Home Evening lesson about the importance of telling the truth, and try to really reassure the Bella & Tess that they won’t get in trouble if they tell the truth. It may be just a phase Tess is going through, she’s still pretty little, but I think Jenn is right about really praising them when they do tell the truth.
I’ve noticed Whitney trying to hide little things from me lately because she thinks she’s going to get in trouble (i.e., she left toys outside overnight in the rain), so I’ve been ultracalm about it like it’s no big deal and just tell her she doesn’t need to hide anything from me.
Growing up, my mom tells me I was the little liar in our family. She would tell me all that about not getting in trouble for telling the truth and that she wouldn’t be mad if I would just tell her the truth the first time. Didn’t work to well with me. When she found out I was lying and could “prove” it, I would be in so much trouble. Not just taking away the TV or toys, but she would take everything away and make me work for that weekend or whatever. Like I wasn’t aloud to have any fun. She told me at one point she sent me to her friends house to weed her flower gardens because she ran out of things to have me do around her house. *Gasp* But after a while she said I just started to understand why lying was wrong and that it hurt her and me and all that. It phased itself out I guess. I so don’t look forward to this phase with Mya, but maybe I will be inspired since I was in her place at one point as well :/