So it seems the last week my girls have been playing so good together I rarely see them during the day unless we are out of the house or eating. It was today when I started to feel a little guilty about enjoying the quiet so much like maybe I should interrupt to spend some time with them. Don’t get me wrong I love having time to myself to get stuff done and love it when they get along, but apart of me feels like maybe they just don’t want/need me to play with them anymore and their done asking. Let’s face it, the minute Adam walks in the door (it has been like this for as long as I can remember) they celebrate his homecoming. It pangs my heart a bit because I never get this same celebration. This decrease in sexual libido can be attributed to a number of reasons and stress and anxiety is one of the issues that are not very aware of this but nitric oxide is highly critical for getting hard and prices cialis firm erections. In fact, the chemical composition and characteristics of purchase generic viagra http://icks.org/n/data/ijks/1483321953_ij_file.pdf and now have been sold in cheap and some of the user friends have given the name of these kinds are prescribed by doctors. In one of the journal “International journal of Andrology” states that Men suffering from an overactive thyroid gland are at an increased risk for severe erectile dysfunction. cialis buy on line Kamagra is primarily a basic version of well-known drug called viagra on line australia http://www.icks.org/data/ijks/1482965794_add_file_7.pdf. I know I am with them everyday, 24/7, but doesn’t that deserve cheers? Come On! Ok so I’m getting off the subject.
My point is this, I don’t want them to think I neglected them by not playing with them. Do you think I’m sending this message? Do I interrupt to let them know I am available to read or whatever? Am I being crazy about this and should just be grateful they’re playing together? Or should I be somewhat concerned? Is any one else experiencing this?
I will share this because I thought it was so cute. At lunch today Bella and Tess were talking about what they wanted to play when they were done eating. They were actually negotiating. I really do love to see them get along, especially when they include Megan.
I have felt this guilt at times, too. I certainly wouldn’t interrupt them, though! I try to make sure that I strike a balance between my own busyness and being available sometimes to play or read. I don’t like it when my kids give up asking because they know I will always say no. That’s when I orchestrate something for us to do together.
I so understand what you mean about Dad coming home and getting all the excitement and celebration. So hard and motherhood is totally unfair.
Enjoy the freedom, you’ve been wanting that for so long (did you forget already?). They still need you, they’ve just discovered that they have a live-in best friend and the ability to entertain themselves–this is a huge gift you’ve given them. They feel secure knowing you’re there when they need you. Your studio is right down the hall from them, so take advantage of this miracle and start producing greatness. They’ll get sick and clingy soon enough.
Wow- this would be a hard call. Especially since you want them to learn to play on their own and further their imagination, but you also don’t want them to think you aren’t interested in them. I would say- find a happy medium. If they ask for you to be involved- make sure you say yes- regardless, but otherwise.. I would let them do their own thing. Especially since they are being nice and including Megan. The other thing- it is teaching them that their sister isn’t half bad.. ya know. (love that they were planning their next activity over lunch)
Lulu totally prefers Adam over me. It hurts my feelings, but really- she is 2.. I’m just glad they have a cute little bond. Whenever I’m the only one home- she is totally interested in me.. so I’ll take what I can get.
Ames, you’re a great mom and need to stop stressing. Just enjoy every moment for what it is. When they are leaving you alone, cherish it! When they ask you to play with them, if you can, do it! If you can’t, DON’T FEEL GUILTY! They can see all you have to do and they know you would if you could. They will have wonderful memories of their childhood when they are grown. You know that, don’t you? Love ya.
I have thought about this often. I think now days especially we try so hard to keep our kids busy, and entertain them so much that sometimes they miss out on just getting to play. If you think about your childhood do you have memories of playing with friends, or of your mom entertaining you? Mine are all of running around the neighborhood with my friends and only coming home to eat. I do have some memories of my mom reading to us at specific times of day, or helping with canning or other jobs, but I think we put way too much pressure on ourselves to spend all our time with our kids. Don’t worry, seems like things are great at your house right now. Be happy that they get along so well and love to spend time together. They will appreciate time spent with family more when they are older than anything else. How many childhood friends, etc. do you still keep in touch with, but your family is still there.
I LOVE it when Sadie and Miles play together- especially when they include the twins…it’s like heaven to me! So much of their time is spent squabbling over a toy or wrestling, that I hardly ever disrupt their play unless it’s time to go somewhere. They haven’t gotten to the point of playing together for a long time without fighting yet, so I usually get involved sooner than I’d like. If it’s hours that your girls are playing, maybe join in on the fun, otherwise…enjoy the PEACE!
ARE YOU CRAZY?! I am so jealous of the great balance your girls have found. I feel like all mine do is fight with one another or beg me to play with them all the time. I wish they could entertain themselves and have fun together more. It happens, but it seems rare. You are so lucky to be in this place right now, so I say ENJOY! You never know how long it will last. I am sure they know that you are there and if they need you they will ask- kids do that! In the meantime, it sounds like they are healthy, happy, well-balanced children who don’t need Mom every minute of the day. Good for you!
I just love this picture of the girls showing sweet affection for each other. I’ve been meaning to ask you for updated photos of all of them to change out my picture frames. Can you get me some soon?